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Condoms and lubricants – How to find the best for you

Condoms and lubricant are the perfect combination, because your safety is increased by better gliding and less resistance on the condom.

But even without a condom, the slippery aid is a booster for your sex life. Especially for vaginal dryness, anal sex and together with sex toys like vibrators or masturbators, lube is a real blessing and will help you glide quickly into 7th heaven.

So don't waste any more time, read the article and find out which lube is best for you and what you should definitely not use as a lube alternative. You'll also learn how to use lube properly here.

Why Lubricants and condoms Form a Great Partnership

You've probably noticed that condoms are usually coated with a thin layer of lubricant.

There's a good reason for this: despite their durability, condoms become more sensitive if there's too much friction and, in the worst case, they can even tear when things aren't so wet.

But don't worry, it usually doesn't come to that, because sex becomes extremely uncomfortable if the vagina, anus or toy is too dry.

You'll notice it quickly, unless you already have a bottle of lubricant at hand.

Which is the best lubricant with a condom?

In combination with condoms, water-based or silicone-based lubricants are particularly suitable for better lubrication. But before you buy, there are a few questions you should answer:

  • Is the lubricant approved for use with condoms? (Labelled "condom compatible" or "suitable for condoms").
  • Do you need a special lubricant, e.g. for anal sex?
  • Do you plan to use the lubricant as a massage gel?
  • Do you want to use the lubricant together with sex toys?
  • What are the personal preferences of you and your partner?

Depending on your answers to these questions, certain lubricants are more suitable for you, because each lubricant has some advantages and disadvantages.

You can find out exactly what these are now, and then you will be able to choose the perfect lubricant for you.

Which lubricants are there? What are the advantages and disadvantages?

There are a lot of lubes and lubricants that you can buy online or in shops. Here we have compiled a short overview with the most important advantages and disadvantages.

Water-based lubricant - Perfect with condoms

Water-based lubes offer many advantages, because high-quality lubes are usually good for allergy sufferers, have very few ingredients and are also ideal for vaginal dryness thanks to nourishing substances such as aloe vera.

They are also great if you want to use them together with sex toys.

Another great advantage is that they absorb into the skin over time, feel good on the skin and wash off extremely easily with a little water.

Accordingly, they help to clean up quickly and usually don't leave any unsightly stains on textiles if something goes wrong.

This advantage brings us to the disadvantages:

Because water-based lubricants are absorbed into the skin, they are sometimes less productive and you may have to reapply some lubricant every now and then.

This type of lubricant is also not suitable for massages.

Silicone-based lubricants - also ideal for condoms

Silicone-based lubricants are mainly made of silicone, which has the advantage that they are hardly absorbed into the skin. This means you can have a lot of pleasure with the gel, especially if you have long sex.

In addition, the lubricants are also very suitable for longer massages and are generally well tolerated by the skin.

Silicone-based lubricants feel more like massage oils on the skin. They are not quite as slippery as the water-based products.

You should only be careful if you want to include sex toys in your lovemaking, because silicone lubricant is not compatible with toys made of silicone and can damage the toys.

Another disadvantage is that it does not wash off as easily as water-based lubricants and can stain textiles.

Natural lubricants with condoms

Natural lubricants such as aloe vera gel or Nuru gel can also be excellent alternatives to silicone-based or water-based lubricants.

These lubricants usually care for the skin richly, have only a few ingredients and can also be very productive. In addition, they have the advantage that they can be completely absorbed into the skin and do not leave stains on textiles.

However, it is important to make sure that they do not contain any preservatives or fragrances and that they really are 100% natural gels.

Otherwise, the feeling on the skin is not for everyone and should be tested. Any residue can either be left on the skin or washed off easily.

Lubricant for anal sex a must-have

Anal without lube is like sledding without snow, basically not a good idea. Not only does it feel bad and can be painful, but it can also lead to injuries and anal fissures.

That's why it's extremely important to choose the right lube for anal sex. There are many water-based or silicone-based lubricants that are specially produced for anal sex.

These lubricants are thicker, absorb more slowly into the skin and ensure that everything is always slippery and slides nicely.

By the way: We always recommend wearing a condom in the right size for anal sex to avoid infections of your urinary tract, prostate and so on. Infections can be caused by bacteria in the intestines.

The other advantages and disadvantages are otherwise the same as what we have already written about gels.

Oil-based lubricants not suitable for condoms

Oil-based lubricants are generally not suitable for use with condoms. Oil-based lubricants make the latex of condoms porous, which causes them to burst more quickly.

Therefore, you should always keep them as far away from your rubbers as possible.

Alternatives to lube, are they suitable?

Apart from the classic lube gels, there are also alternatives that are considered by many as lube gel substitutes. Here we will go into some of the most important ones.

Massage oils or baby oil as a lubricant substitute

Massage oils or baby oil are not suitable as lubricants, not for dry vaginas and certainly not to be used in combination with condoms.

These oils upset the vaginal flora and make latex condoms porous, so you shouldn't use them either way.

The only exception is if massage gel is explicitly labelled as a lubricant.

Cooking oils (coconut oil, olive oil, etc.) as an alternative to lubricants

With cooking oils we have the same problems as with massage oils or baby oil as an alternative to lube.

They dissolve condoms and upset the flora of the vagina.

In addition, the oil residues provide a breeding ground for bacteria and fungi, which can then lead to additional health problems.

Milking grease or petroleum jelly as a lubricant substitute

Here too, we have to disappoint you: Vaseline and milking fat do not belong in your genital area.

Paraffin (petroleum) makes latex condoms porous and cracked, drastically reducing protection.

Studies have also shown that introduced petroleum jelly leads to an increased risk of bacterial vaginosis.

Anything else that contains fat or oil

Body lotion, hand cream, butter and anything else containing fat or oil should always be kept away from condoms.

Especially away from the vagina and anal area, unless it is specifically made for that purpose.

How to use lube correctly with or without a condom

The application of lube is incredibly simple and is done in the same way with or without condoms:

You put some in your hand, on your penis, vagina, anus or sex toy. Then spread it on the outside and inside, depending on the area, and you're ready to go.

You can also use it during foreplay to heighten sensation and add a little extra stimulation as you explore your partner's body. A tingling massage can also get you going.

Insider tip: a drop of lubricant in the condom

To make the feeling even better for the man, simply put a small drop of lubricant in the condom. Just a little, so that the condom remains tight. It's worth it.

Conclusion - condoms and lubricants

Lubricant is a wonderful tool and should not be missing in any household, especially because alternatives such as baby oil, cooking oils or Vaseline are not suitable for it.

Moreover, vibrators, dildos, masturbators or anal sex without lube are not only less fun, but can lead to injuries.

Water-based lubes are perfect with or without condoms and can help get you and your partner really hot and bothered.

The same goes for silicone-based lubes, but you have to be careful with your sex toys.

So don't waste any more time and stock up on lube. You can buy it directly from the drugstore or the supermarket around the corner.

Mister Size
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